A Love Letter to my Husband

Since Valentines Day was only a couple of days ago, I thought it was a good time to share this.

I’m writing this because I’ve really started feeling like the ‘relationship’ part of life with my husband is on the back burner. Not because we have issues, we love each other more than ever, but because we have two young girls. A 1 and a 2 year old and Rich is working really hard on his business. No matter how much we try and make time for ‘me and him’ something always seems to get in the way. I can only imagine we aren’t unique in that and I hope if this feeling resonates with you, it may offer some reassurance that you aren’t alone, I (we) feel it too! I’m sure things will get easier once the girls are a bit older and we aren’t constantly juggling dream feeds, chaotic bath times, varying levels of mobility and immobility, one illness after another, after another and then we will be in the position where the girls needs are not so hardcore and they happily go for sleep overs at Aunty Michelle’s or Nanny’s and don’t wake up through the night! In the mean time, this is for you Rich, my best friend, my husband, my everything and as Valentine’s Day was not too long ago, a perfect time to say it. Also, I’m so rubbish at saying these things, writing is easier!

To Rich

I love the father you are to the girls. The special time you make for them, everyday, regardless of how busy you are. You make sure you have breakfast with them and make sure you bath them and put them to bed. This is precious and will stay in their memories forever!

I love the way you subtly suggest things, or show me things that you know might strike a chord with me! Ted talks are one example, but let’s be honest the website and blog were all born thanks to your encouragement.

I love your weird taste in tv, some of the things you watch are hilarious, but so you. You always tell me to give it a go, you introduced me to YouTube and now I’m hooked on Casey Neistat! I love the way you always carry a hanky! Not many people could pull that off, you are one of the ones who can! I love the way you always make an effort, your saying ‘times may change but standards must remain’ sums it up perfectly. Your well ironed shirts, smart belt and shoes are one of the things that attracted me to you and to this day you haven’t changed. I love the way you come up with quick responses to things, you’re sarcastic, but in a funny way and I wish I could think of the little things you come out with! I love the way you impersonate people, your accents and impressions are amazing, but when you’re put on the spot you can’t do it. I love your philosophy to life and the things you want (us) to achieve and I love the fact that I have 100% belief that those dreams will be our reality. I love the way you make me feel safe and protected, the trust I have in you can’t be described or quantified. I love the way you tame me.... I’m the spontaneous, think it, do it one and you are the one who likes to ponder and consider all of the options. I know because of this, we always make the best choices. I love your courage and determination. You tackle things that most would be afraid to even contemplate and even when the struggle is all uphill, you just keep on going. This is special! I love the way when I say ‘I need to talk to you’ you know I’ve got some crazy idea coming your way and you will always hear me out.... and we always make the best compromise. I love the way you have thrown yourself into my crazy family, we are so close it’s daunting and being an only child I know how tough that was and I know my family love you too. I love the way you have made the world my oyster, literally, and i don’t mean financially. You have put things in my reach that I never would have thought possible and that’s because of your belief in me. How can I fail with that support. Most of all, I love the way you love me. There are no doubts, no insecurities and no fear. I am blessed and feel like the luckiest girl in the world! So whilst our hectic lives mean that you and me time is so infrequent, I know we will be ok because we love each other, we are happy and we are on the most amazing journey completely and utterly together.